Roles or Relationships?

How we see ourselves plays into the ‘roles’ and ‘characteristics’ we take on in our relationships…and how we experience our relationships can often lead us to thinking of ourselves in certain (often limited) ways.

For example, we may take on the role of the carer or the ‘cared for’ in the relationship – the ‘parent-figure’ or the one who needs help.

We may become the dominant one or the passive one – the one who directs the relationship or the one who simply goes along with everything.

We may see ourselves as the problem-solver or the challenger – the one who always has an answer or the one who questions everything.

We may even see ourselves as the net giver or the net receiver of love in the relationship!